When you're Expecting a baby, be it your first, second or tenth; people are always telling you how hard it is going to be. And even though you listen and take it in, there is no amount of advice that can prepare you for parenthood. It really is the hardest job out there with no handbook and no way to know if your doing it right. Of course everyone does their best and hopes they are doing it right, but for me the ones who stand out are the ones who are just doing it!
In this day and age I consider myself so lucky to still be in a relationship with the father of my children. To have someone to share the hard times with and help take some of the strain. We are also blessed with having hands on (grand)parents, eager to aid us with free child care, day or night, when we feel we need a break. But despite this there are still days and nights where I feel totally overwhelmed and alone, because being a parent is hard.
Therefore I can't imagine how hard it must be for the millions of single parents out there who play the role of both mum and dad, day and night, 365 days a year! You are my true heros.
To the mums and dads who make it to school on time, even though It will make them late for work. Who send their children to nursery with clean faces and brushed hair, even though they haven't looked in a mirror themselves. The parents who wanted that last piece but gave it away anyway. Who lovingly bathe their kids when they are too tired to shower themselves. And who tuck them into bed to ensure they're well rested but loose their own sleep preparing pack lunch for tomorrow. You are my idols!
These things are hard enough to tackle when there are two of you going through it together, but even harder when there isn't anyone else in it with you. You parents are the ones putting in 100% everyday. And even though It may not feel like it now, when you're covered in baked beans and yesterday's porridge, the hard times will pass and your kids will understand and appreciate everything you did for them. Because you did. You did it for THEM.
It doesn't matter if you can only afford to feed them Tesco value chicken nuggets, and they don't wear the latest trends from river island. Or that the laundry pile in your bedroom hasn't been put away for 2 months! Because trust me, your kids don't care!
So when you are feeling low, and just want a break because you've been up for a full 30 hours with a sick baby or scared toddler, just remember that you have got this! And you are doing an amazing job! Whether your single and running the place solo or have been in the same partnership since the get go, you are a parent, you know your child and you know what's best! So don't let anything or anyone get you down! Your kids look up to you and that is all that matters!
Day of Knights